Margaret McGahon, MSc, is an accredited psychodynamic psychotherapist with a private practice in Ireland. She is the academic coordinator for a diploma program in psychology of counselling with the National University of Ireland Galway (NUIG) and has been a trainer for psychotherapy training institutes. She has created several human development programs including Deeper Living, and is the author of Trauma and Belief: An Irish Perspective. 

If you are more concerned with how you are doing, it will probably get away of that positive regard. Once someone senses that we are curious, it tends to go well. Little Things make a really big difference.